Someone recently told me that asking forgiveness is unnecessary when an apology can suffice. But these can imply two very different things depending upon the context.

 An apology in a classical Greek understanding typically refers to a “well thought out argument”; “from” (apo) “reason” or “logic” (logia). To “forgive” as a verb in Biblical Hebrew among other meanings implies the idea of plucking up something from its roots, to forget, to bear or carry the burden of another, to take up responsibility, to obtain favor. 

A preliminary inquiry into the context and scope of the words, ”apology” and “forgiveness” could be a start to help us to think more carefully about how to employ these words tactfully in a given context to maintain good relationships at work and at home.

An apology could be powerful, but not where forgiveness is what is really needed. When a colleague or spouse is unfaithful, offering an apology may not go very far in terms of restoring relationships. A rationale however well thought out will not suffice. On the other hand, when arguing about an appropriate business strategy or family budget, what we really need is an apology. Although, if we end up attacking one another in the process, extending and being open to receiving forgiveness can be crucial.

Consider, 

Where or to whom do I need to offer an apology today? Who can I need to forgive today? Am I open to receiving forgiveness today? 

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